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Teaching in Life for Life

The power of expectations & responsibility for children with autism.

Practical insights and techniques for parents, caregivers, teachers, and therapists to help children with autism and other developmental disorders learn about life and improve their communication skills.

Set expectations

Clear, developmentally appropriate expectations give children the opportunities they need to grow.

Build responsibility

Responsibility transferred to the child, day by day, through real participation in daily life, builds independence.

Grow communication

Language grows through connection, not drill. Every interaction is a teaching opportunity.

Dr. Nancy Z. Schwartz

Meet Dr. Nancy Z. Schwartz, Ph.D., CCC

Forty years of practice, distilled for families.

As a passionate advocate for children with autism and other developmental disorders, I share practical insights with parents, caregivers, teachers, and therapists. Over four decades of clinical work have shown me, firsthand, the power of relatedness — of being with a child — to support their learning about life and their communication.

Together, we can empower children to thrive.

Learn more about Nancy

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Do's and Don'ts for Effective Declarative Language Use
  • Declarative Language

Do's and Don'ts for Effective Declarative Language Use

July 3, 2026

Some practical guidelines to help you navigate the use of declarative language effectively:

An example of declarative language usage within an everyday task:
  • Declarative Language

An example of declarative language usage within an everyday task:

May 19, 2026

When you are starting to use declarative language, it is hard. You should not try to use declarative language all day because then you will feel like a failure as it is highly unlikely that you will remember to use declarative language while you are busy taking care of everyone! A more productive route, in the beginning, is to a choose specific activity, e.g. when you are getting the child ready for bed. You could begin by planning ahead.

Creating declarative statements:
  • Declarative Language

Creating declarative statements:

May 11, 2026

Declarative language sounds easy to use. You just have to make comments instead of directing the child. While it seems like it should be easy, it is hard! Years of practice of telling the child what to do needs to be undone. You have to think of what to say and say it at a level that the child will understand.

What does a child learn by being involved in activities of daily living?
  • Participation in Life

What does a child learn by being involved in activities of daily living?

December 29, 2024

When a child participates in an activity of daily living, such as making a salad, clearing the table or doing the laundry, she learns much more than a static sequence of steps.

Earning the Right to be Independent
  • Participation in Life

Earning the Right to be Independent

November 6, 2024

When I first start working with a child, I don't allow the child to do tasks independently. I want the child to be engaging with me to do the task and to be learning from me.

Learning a Task!
  • Participation in Life

Learning a Task!

September 23, 2024

Any individual does not truly learn a task if someone is telling him what to do in a rote fashion. To truly learn, one needs to be an active participant in the process.